Excellent insights here. I'm sure many of us are guilty of shooting from the hip. When I was in college, I took a course-- interpersonal communications. The course taught the art of disagreement, and a good portion of your points were included.

Most people don't know how to effectively disagree in their relationships. They get defensive and bring up things from the past. It's a skill like everything else. The hubby is getting better. 😁Good stuff.