You raise so many great questions, I'm certain we've all pondered at one time or another and have no absolute answers. Grief is a personal journey. No one grieves the same because all relationships are different.

I try to look at death as part of life, but no one wants to see their loved one suffer. I think your support and presence is needed most, not the right or best thing to say. I don't don't know that there is a right thing to say. We're all in the same boat here. I'm sorry you're experiencing this now. 💙